A Topic About Love..

I was asked this question.. and to start this topic..

Where and what is love?
And of course the tipical answer was "Love is knowing, its in the Heart"
His reply to me was.. If you had a heart transplant, your heart taken and another one put in, would the love you had still be there?
I stumbled a minute and thought about it.. we always say "Love is in the Heart"..
"My heart feels the love" "I love you with all my heart".. coming to terms, i said
it is a feeling we have inside, we use heart as an expression which symbolizes our
strength in the emotion of love we have within. Our hearts contain it and our soul fuels it for growth. We spoke about the mind containing it as well, but that too i stumbled on, "What if you had a brain transplant, damage or something along that way, where is love then, does it still resume?
He said, "I don't beleive the heart is where love is, i beleive love is in our souls because it is the only thing that cannot be taken, transplanted or changed"
I had so much more to think and say, but everyone if you can give me your opinion,
I'd truely love it, we are still in this deep discussion lol..
I know it is an emotion and it can't be defined to one definition, but where is it exactly?

I think love it most greatly found in sacrifice for another. 

love is nothing more than a chemical reaction in a pesrons body...at least scientifically speaking, but I am NO scientist...lol

Satans...that is why I refer to sacrifice.  Anyone can "feel."  Well...I hope they can!  But, sacrifice goes beyond the bio-chemical-psychological factor of human love.

I believe love is apart of the soul of a person! It is a feeling that is felt on different levels. I love(feel for) my kids in a different way that I love(feel for) my mom and my husband different from my mom... Love is an emotion, sometimes the ability to feel more for someone else than yourself and anyone who has kids has definitely tapped into that love emotion!

P.S. My husband who is completely nuts and always has me LMAO, said "LOVE is in the groins" He is so silly!

I saw this topic, and I had to comment.

There are many different kinds of love, in my opinion.

There is a love for a spouse or a partner. Strong, and deep. It should be unconditional, and it's there through the toughest of times.


There is a different kind of love for your children. Unconditional, and very powerful. A mothers love for her children is like no other love, it's unexplainable.

Then there is a love for friends. It's a warm, and caring love.

I think love is in the soul also. It makes you do things you normally wouldn't at times. Love can bring you pain, joy, happiness, sadness...it's a very tricky thing.


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Love is when a parent sacrifices his/her meal so their child will have food
or the hero that steps in to protect someone from bullies.
or someone who is kind enough to make that morgage payment for someone who doesn't have it to pay at the moment.
or can hold their grievance until later with someome who isn't feeling well or doing well.

i agree with joseph kennedys comparison having kids killed the selfish part of me (and keeps me broke )lmao

Me as well. Raising kids takes alot of sacrafice for me, but it's ok. I know whatever it is that I sacrafice, I get back 100x from the love of my children.



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Oh boy, kids saved my life love-wise.  I am an only child who grew up mostly alone and though I had general care for the rest of the world and people, I never knew how selfish I was until I had kids lol.  My son actually brought me to my knees with the weird chemical soul deep reaction I had to him.  I honestly believe it was the first time I knew TRUE love, the kind that was NATURAL and i had no idea what to do with it.  It scared the #$## out of me.  Other moms were just going on with life in my mom's group, I was like frozen and terrified, and touched so deeply I didn't know what the heck was happening to me.  My dh thought I had post partem depression, but it was an awakening actually.  All of a sudden I went from ME to US, and wowsers.  I don't believe I had ever been an US before.  Now, I had love for my dh, and love for my friends, and love for my mom etc., but it was not the earth shattering soul deep love I had for my son when I realized what real love was, and have for my kids. 

It wasn't until I had my son and felt something so painful and awesome, that I knew my mom didn't love me.  Not totally.  It wasn't until I felt my own skin that I knew I wasn't hers.  It was as if I had to know real natural love before I could see what was not.  That was a very painful experience for me.  I am sure you notice that I mix pain with love often, and I would say that's pretty accurate for me. 

Now I'm not saying the only real natural love is for children- not at all.  But for me, it was what taught me the responsibility of love, and what real love was.  It was only because I was deprived of it growing up that I needed something so jolting to know.  I know people who grew up with a seminormal family, never had kids, and they are the most loving caring people you would ever meet.  It's as if love radiates from them, you just love to be around them.  So I think it is soul deep for sure. 

Thanks for sharing that Toodle. I know exactly what you are saying.



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Thanks Mommy.. I meant that about the skin thing.  I found out on her deathbed that I am perhaps not her birth child.  Which would explain a lot, including the intense resentment.  So I am currently researching the matter.

Oh wow, that is deep stuff. I hope you get to the bottom of it. I wish you good luck, and you will be in my thoughts, and prayers.



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My crazy first husband once wrote me a poem I only remember part of it-
Love is Everything
the good, the bad, the in between
Love is a baby nursing from it's mother
Love is one man killing another

Okay, so, it went on like that for awhile. 

So if it's everything, it is everywhere, kind of like God.  Hmmm...makes sense since God is love. 

Wow, great answers, it is true, having children does wipe out selfishness, you do make total sacrifices for them.
Toodles loved your story, that is like breaking through the chains that bound you, coming out with love that just surrounds you, learning how to love is a very hard thing to do, it is also a very powerful and useful skill for survival, you seemed to have overcome.. love does radiate and it can get you through the toughest times in our lives.

Very true chillymellow, it is everywhere..
From doo-doo birds to viruses, from cavemen to hornless rhinos, snakes and ants that crawl, from bad things to the good, from oceans and skies that hold our kings, to the tiniest teardrop that holds a million prayers, the driest of deserts sands, to the sparkle in concrete, all plants and animals that fly or swim, the people we see and meet, babys smiles, cats and dogs that grin.. the air that we breathe and how our hearts beat.. you will find it!

You certainly have a way with words Imagin.

Well said.



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Love is a grave mental disease.
-Plato

Forget love, I'd rather fall in chocolate.
- Sandra Dykes, comedian

Love is a dirty trick played on us to achieve continuation of the species.

Love is the most beautiful thing in the world to me. I consider myself a loving person, and I think the world would be a much better place, if more people just loved a little more



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“The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.”

“Without love, we are birds with broken wings.”

“Ordinary riches can be stolen, real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you.”

-Morrie Schwartz


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