Divorce discussion(let it all out)

I've never been married or divorce...but I'm with a man who was married and going through a divorce for 2 years and divorce is all the nightmare I imagined it to be.

official im not married but i have a daughter  15 years old  with a man
my life isnt how i planned or imagine to be
I dont know i think if i will choose other man after years.when hapiness end will be same s---t.
so i prefer continue,.anyway at 39 years is hard to find a man whithout ex wife or kids.so more complicate for my life
i stay how i am with good and bad.too lazy to start again

Been divorced for two years now and it was probually the the worst experience I had ever been through but now looking back I'm very grateful for that idiot leaving me because my life then compared to now are very different , marriage is defenitly for certain people and I'm not one of them, I have Girlfriend now but will never In a billion years get married again,  I've got not problem with being with someone for the rest of my life but the marriage story and the law and family issues around it are not for me
That's my 2 cents worth on this subject 

I agree 100% with cica.  Im also 39 and simply do not want to start over. Plus with my daughters disabilities its just easier for us to stick it out.  I have almost asked for one several times but always chicken out.  Oh well.  What you want and what you get from life is usually not the same thing.

It is such a scam and injustice that if you want to divorce someone you have to give the courts total control of your life. They drag it out while the lawyer you are forced to hire, because of the insanely complex and complicated legal procedures, for unjustifiable 1000's of dollars, sucks you dry.Why cant grown adults who don't want want be be together anymore just take whats there's and go there separate ways. I am truly sickened by this whole experience.  amp;

Been through a divorce. Best thing that can happen to get over it is to remember the good times when you were married and to create pleasant new memories in your life after the divorce.

I haven`t been married, but I was living together with a man for many years. When we moved together we made an agreement/deal through a lawyer, so there was no problems when we did split.

Now I have been living alone for some years and feel fine with that. I don`t need to stress to find a new man to live together with, like some of my friends do. They seem to not handle to live alone. I feel sorry for them.

i think is nice to have wedding
pictures.white dress.cake  etc., all that,should be nice to remember
at least is a good start in life
we live only once

I've been married two times and both ended in divorce. First divorce it felt like death even though it was me who wanted it. It cost me a little over $24,000 in attorney fees and that was back in 1993. My second divorce was my decision as well, I simply fell out of love. But I can tell you last year when I lost both my parent's both my ex-husbands were there for me.

Divorce is the ultimate gesture of discord between two people love each other .. and if you can not not suffer each other trying to get along ...

I am married  for 15 years and i still love my wife. i never thought about divorce. Few people who divorce without feeling guilty, when asked the divorce, how not to think of the suffering we will inflict on the person you loved for so many years?

i was thinking many times to separate

and is all because i lost trust in myself,feel addicted by my partner and i no more feel God around

i used to handle alone and i like it that and always God helped me in different ways

When violence settles in a couple living together is not possible all the rest is just tinkering and lie to oneself. divorce, then is the only solution.

he not drink and not cheat me but also no want go at work and from this came many problems

every person have good and bad sides

i.m also complex and complicated or many times  whithout ideas and boring

so i not saying is easy living with me

Cica i think you still love him and somewhere you regret that you are separated to him, because you put some part of the guilty on you. So let s say : Asta este...

i was thinking many times to separate

we are still togheter

sorry the story is a bit long so i shorcuted some parts. 

no problem.i was telling about possible reasons to separate

i will not do it because i feel insecure on my own person at the moment 

i prefer to be independent instead a women addicted by a man

at the moment i not feel i have that power

i forgot to mention we have a daughter togheter .has almost 16 years old 

otherwise i wouldnt bother so much for a man

I have been divorced for less then a year. We were married for 3 years. Hell is the one word that described our union. He liked to drink and would get violent. He also did drugs. I don't drink or do drugs. He wouldnt work and he was 14 years my junior. I was lonely and made a bad descision. Glad it is over. I would rather be sick and struggling alone then to be mistreated and stressed out. I now see other couples going threw things (my brother) and i am so glad its no longer me. I am single and i am happy. Sure i get lonely sometimes then i remember the nightmare i was married to and get real happy quickly.

Cat50 you are deffinitely better off 

Cat50, I have lots of friends that got divorced for more or less the same reasons, it's definitely better being single than being in a toxic relationship. 

In my opinion - the people that suffer most from a divorce are the kids.It fucks their future and they don't have any fault.

I-was-married-for-16yrs-we-seperated-and-when-he-finally-got-the-papers-in-2-wks-later-he-passed-away.

Know-im-fighting-his-girlfriend-for-my-pension-and-family-property.

Wish-I-never-got-married-all-the-bs-he's-put-me-through.

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I've never been married but I believe there's nothing easy about divorce if you still have feelings for your partner. It gets worse if you have kids. It's a tough hurdle to jump, the more time you spend together, the higher it gets.

Divorce is a hard thing to go thru. It hurts lots of people. Very hard on the children. I did it once, never again. Hopefully.

According to statistics, about 50% of marriages in the world sooner or later divorce, well, except for some countries, there is less. So this is not news, everything happens in life. I got divorced, in time everything becomes normal.

i have been widowed by my first husband, and married to my second husband for 1 year then divorced. but we got 1 of those no fault, take what you started with divorce. he didnt want it but i did because it just wasnt meant. so it was a quickie devorce.

In general. I believe we all agree that divorce is  a sad thing. It is very difficult ,and  can be very traumatic a s well. But my opinion, feelings,etc. Will always first and foremost   revolve around  the children where they  are present. If the environment becomes so toxic that these children are apparently affected negatively, by all means i beleive in going with a divorve.  The kids that have to endure constant arguing, abuse,etc.are truly the ones who suffer and  are at risk more than any one else.

never married so my experince is my parents divorce. happened when i was very young so wasnt that traumatized about it. has affected me though in numerous ways but trauma is too big of a word for it. semi-traumatized? quasi-traumatized? 

i have been married when i was 27 became a widdow, then at 32 got married and divorced a year later divorced. it was a no fault keep what you started with, quickie , easy divorce. no problems at all.

My parents got divorced when I was 10 and they both got remarried to other partners. I’m really happy for them because they are happy too. Growing up I didn’t understand this but now I do.

Divorce sucks. No other way around that. Broken dreams, hurt and disappointment follow all divorces. But sometimes there can be "beauty from ashes" if you learn to forgive and move forward in your life. Children are usually the silent victims from a divorce, and they should be allowed to ask questions and share through this process.

Divorse could never be a good think, right, I mean the process of divorcing itself.

Honestly I don't believe in marriage at first place.

I've been in a 10 years relationship broked at the end and thangs god I didn't have to deal with divorsing too.