Guys Hitting Women........is there exceptions?

Lips......from my days as a family therapist I want to say there are MANY occurances of women hitting men....very violently.  That does NOT make hitting women more okay.  But, women often become violent.  I could tell utter horror stories.  But, here is the double standard:  Husband can be having the sh..t beat out of him by his wife and if he fights back....hmmmm...guess who the police drag off???

Bottom line:  Men or women.  If you S.O. is violent.  LEAVE!  Go!  Do not stay with a violent person.

Couldn't agree more, hitting is never appropriate, no matter who is doing it.  Best thing to do it leave. 

You touched a nerve here Lips with your post.

I was in a violent marriage - he used to beat me up, strangle me, bite me, thump the top of my head with his fist and so on.  It was the most traumatic time of my life and it was the hardest thing to leave because of the "I promise I won't do it again - Im really sorry" bull****. 

I did leave after 4 and a half years and it was the best move I ever made and I should have done it sooner but I was young and naive. 

Nobody, man or woman, should suffer at the hands of their partner and if a man ever laid a finger on me again, it would be over immediately regardless of my feelings, his feelings or any other circumstances.

In my opinion, it is totally unacceptable regardless of who is doing it to whom.

blue

Glad you had to courage to leave Blue. 

I'm sure there is "Exceptions" but if anyone starts to see their spouse even start to act a tad violent, they should leave or get them to seek mental health therapy.

I don't really (Maybe blue could say)think that the person hasn't outgrown being a child when angry. Now, when I get angry at anyone, I just either walk away, or ask them to repeat what they said, it's not always what they say, but how.

Thanks Tinmanfan.  You're very kind.

Genenco - there was no "anger" - it was just pure violence.  There was no hint whatsoever each time it happened and I'm sure there is no way he would have ever admitted he had a problem or that he needed an anger management course. 

In fact I would say that a person suffering at the hands of their partner is not likely to suggest an anger management course because of fear of another attack.  I certainly would never have said anything like that to him.

blue

Blue.....glad you left.  I can tell you are WAY too good a woman to stay with that fellow.  (Well...even if you WEREN'T good, no one should abuse another!)

Blue, you just a hero!!! To live in horror and fear for 4 and half years... It's really the best decision of your life!
Agree there's no differences between two sexes! Men can suffer from cruelty not less than women do! I've even read that women are the most violent beings! then children and only then men...
I always think about it...what all this can end up with!?!? injuries...disability...death...
Actually my mum has had the same drama! I was little but I still remember those scenes!  :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( So now it's one of my strongest fears! If I see only a little hint of violence from my boyfriend even if it's not in my direction, I leave this person! It's unacceptable for me!
You know psychologists say that the majority of girls choose subconsciously their husbands, men who are like their fathers...I'll die if it happens to me!

Thanks blue! It's really important to me!
Agree that it's easy to say "leave", but to do it is rather difficult and painful! When you love...you want to believe him/her that everything will change or won't happen any more...but I'm convinced that if your partner hit you once, he/she will do it again!