Never used "i love you"..?

Heh, funny thing to post here, but oh well...

Who here have actually used those words to their love one's? And no, I am not talking about friends, pets etc., but about your girlfriends and boyfriends.

I am soon 30 years old and I've still not used those 3 "magic" words to any girlfriend of mine. Although I normally aren't an old fashioned guy, I certainly am old fashioned about THAT! I feel that I should use those words when I truly mean it, and so far that hasn't happened yet for me... Certainly, I spam "i love you" to my friends, but in a different setting/meaning, obviously.

At the moment I am single, so I don't really need to "worry" about this, but it pops into my mind now and then. Heh.

Oh, and isn't it ironic and typical me and my "luck"? When I finally found a girl to be with and things were going SO well between us that I was planning to become even more serious with her and say those words to her, but to my shock, surprise and utterly sadness, she died in an accident.. Interestingly enough, we said to each other only 2 weeks before that incident that IF something would ever happen to each of us, then we shouldn't forget about each other. And yes, as of today, I still have her in my thoughts and I visit her grave on special dates to leave a rose (she loved them) with a "You forgotten? No way hosay!" - That way she knows that she's still missed and that she's not forgotten, by far.

So yeah, I am glad I cannot predict the future, hence why I am looking forward on what will happen with THAT part of my life.

Heh, what a really SOFT thread THIS one turned out to be with that happening and stuff. Sorry about that, but yeah; Have you used the "3 magic words" yet?

INteresting post, very introspective. I had to think back to my GFs and frankly, I don't remember ever doing such. To my pets, yes and quite often. But to those I was involved with...I don't think so....Yes, I too am single, but I never lost a love like you did and you do have my sympathy.

Quite a sad story oriug.  How hard that must have been for you.  Sounds as though you really loved her.

Yes I use those words to my husband.  I also tell my son that I love him every time I see him and he tells me the same but that is a different kind of love.

I hope your day to use those 3 words comes soon when you meet the right girl.

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That's a tragic story oriug. I can certainly appreciate that you've opened up to something so personal. I thought I loved in previous relationships and I was happy to say it. I can be an affectionate person so my feelings flow freely with a partner. I tell my husband I love him all the time. Your day will come and what a sweet day it will be. 

I have used those words and now I do on a rather regular basis because I feel that I have to tell that to my wife as often as I can.
Your story is sad indeed but you shouldn't worry, you will surely find a special girl and that's when the words will just pop out when your heart will feel that it's the right moment.

Ah, interesting to see how you guys have grown up with those words.

I guess it applies to cultural differences too.

Here in Europe and Norway where I live, we have our own way to say things like that, but it's different for us in some ways as we too say i love you to our family members, friends and pets, but in more essence of "i truly adore you and i hold you very dear to me", of course. However, we are quite lucky since we have 2 ways to say stuff like that, although it can be rather complicated to understand; "Glad i deg", which I reckon is the softer version of "Jeg elsker deg" (I love you), literally means "I love you", but is used for friends, pets, family etc. BUT, if you are engaged/married, then "glad i deg" can in most cases mean both "I love you" and "glad i deg" at once. Why's that? Well, because "I love you" can be overused if used more than once every day. "Glad i deg" is somehow shown to have more tolerance and even if one overuses "glad i deg", it's not seen in a negative way, at all. "Jeg elsker deg" is simply used towards your better half/girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife. So yeah, I choose to spam to my friends "glad i deg", but like you guys, I say "jeg elsker deg" to pets and family as well. So, one can say that we have a back-up word for "I love you" in norwegian, which is quite handy, especially towards friends. "Glad i deg" can also mean that you are very happy to have a certain person/group as your friend(s). If it is a group, you'd say "glad i dere" since "dere" = you guys/non-singular word.

Confused, hmm? Hehe.

So. I would then say "glad i dere", members of LCB!

Hmm... how do i say this.. with my daughters father i never said it, but in ways i showed it, and to this day i think did i really love him or not.. our relationship was a good one majority but ended badly.. alot of hurt came about it it took me a long time to get over that hurt.

Later i fell crazy in love and used it all the time, we have since parted but now i won't say it to anyone other then friends and family. The reason is because i thought i'd never love or want another til my dieing day, so now if i were to tell another i love them, then all i ever said to him was nothing other then a lie. It's kind of like having guilt. (gee i told this guy i love him so so and this this much and now i'm telling another man). Once you truely love someone you never stop loving them.. I'm single right now but this is what i thought of.. how can i love another, hopefully if it ever happens i won't feel this way.